Shop Mobile More Submit  Join Login
Society's motivation in a nutshell.  by Little-rolling-bean Society's motivation in a nutshell.  by Little-rolling-bean
Form what I have experienced:

Loving yourself = arrogant and bad person
Hating yourself = decent and good person

This is what society thinks. Any sign of liking yourself or doing something for yourself, you are considered arrogant, self centered and horrible. And hating yourself you are automatically loved. And people wonder why girls hate themselves. Seriously, first it is this "be confident! You are great!" then next thing it is "Think about others, stop being up yourself!" 

My estimate is that depression in teenagers exists because of this. They are afraid of being judged and shamed if they show any little sign of being confident, so in order to feel better about themselves and please others, they convince themselves that they are worthless. Nobody wants to be a bad person, and nowadays even being proud about yourself means you are :unimpressed:

Well done, society. 

Well, fuck that. I am not going to put up with this BS, I WILL LOVE MYSELF. And if you think I am arrogant because of this, maybe you should look at the teens that are depressed because of your BS. I am NOT a bad person for loving myself, it just means I am confident. I admit my mistakes but instead of being ashamed, I try to fix them so I can be better. Because I love myself, I make a goal to be a better person.

I also hate people who say "making a self support stamp is arrogant". Oh? Would you rather me make suicide journals then? I am sure you would rather that if supporting myself is OH SO HORRIBLE. 

Everyone is a good person (unless they are a bigot, murderer, rapist or a bully) And beating yourself up is not making you a better person, it is just hurting yourself (and also pleasing bigots). 

See my stamp: 
Add a Comment:
 
:iconpinkiepiesyaaaaaaaay:
PINKIEPIESYAAAAAAAAY Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2015  New Deviant
Actually, that is supposed to happen because the rules are:

-Don't brag, gloat, or lie.

-Help those who need it
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
And then once those people finally get help and say something nice about themselves, you go back to bitching about them :| 

These rules are as crappy as classroom rules.
Reply
:icongirl-time-2015:
Girl-Time-2015 Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
I take great pride in myself.
Because I take pride in myself, that means I am an arrogant and conceited person? Even though I help my mom out with chores or help my little brother with homework?
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Aug 5, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Taking pride in yourself should result in you trying to be a good person
Reply
:icontheautumnmistress:
theautumnmistress Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015  New Deviant
One thing to say:society is weird.
Reply
:icontutanturkeytail:
TutanTurkeyTail Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I am the second type of person.
And I get treated by others like the first type of person.
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
That sucks
Reply
:icontutanturkeytail:
TutanTurkeyTail Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I know :C
Reply
:iconwickidlystrange13:
WickidlyStrange13 Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2015  Student Digital Artist
True that.
Reply
:iconboggytheworm:
BoggyTheWorm Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Unfortunately we are living in the times, where happiness and positivity is a mental illness, and misery all time makes people more noble.
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
True :(
Reply
:icondelightfulred33:
delightfulred33 Featured By Owner Jun 10, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
even though I'm butthurt this is true 
Reply
:iconchaoticdarkangel:
ChaoticDarkAngel Featured By Owner May 24, 2015   Writer
Sad but true Bean.

If a person even dares to say one good thing about themselves 'OMG shut the eff up you're not that great! So conceited'. That really makes me clench my fists hearing comments like that. Supporting yourself is not that bad: I remember my grandmother and my mother drilling that constantly to me whenever I'd not take a compliment or whatever .//. Beating yourself up is not healthy period either. There needs to be some sort of balance I believe.
Reply
:iconcommander-dominic:
Commander-Dominic Featured By Owner May 24, 2015
This is why I hate Society, Society is so god damn hypocritical.
Reply
:iconprincecheezburger:
PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
This is true. I decided to conduct a little psych experiment on my own time with some people for about a week or so(not telling them, naturally, until later). When I showed I was in distress, people were more willing to grant my demands and listen to my words. They seemed to be more sympathetic and caring.
Not that I hate myself. I'm comfortable in my own skin and head, quirks and all.
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Its sad
Reply
:iconprincecheezburger:
PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner Edited May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I sort of find the whole obsession with life a tad funny at times.  People all want everyone to live, yet bullying often comes to the point of self-harm or suicide; then, they all blame the person for killing him or herself.  Even funnier is how people suddenly listen as you're in distress. I want to know the motivation for that. 
Reply
:icondont-h8-m8-ur-gr8:
Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner May 16, 2015
The amount of depression journals on DeviantArt, IS TOO DAMN HIGH!
Reply
:iconprincecheezburger:
PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I would agree with you on this one. Just look up the word "suicide" on the journal section, and tons of them pop up each day. I understand that venting in a journal helps with emotions, but I personally wouldn't post about it if I were in that position since it is MY life and MY choice, emphasis on my.
Reply
:icondont-h8-m8-ur-gr8:
Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner May 18, 2015
Funny thing is, 99.99% of these journals are are made from people who aren't even in a serious situation. I had someone said they wanted to kill themselves because she thought "nobwody lieks meeeee" and someone who think they're life is SOOOO horrible because she can't find a boyfriend. Their ages? 11 year old kiddies, got both of them banned the minute I found out. XD
Reply
:iconprincecheezburger:
PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I also saw one guy saying he'd kill himself with a cone snail sting. Unless you live in an area where they're endemic (mostly in tropical areas, but a few species can be found in temperate areas) and know which species are the most likely to kill you, you don't have much of a chance. Only about 15 or so people have died from a cone snail sting. The stings are painful, but some kill within seconds or minutes.
Reply
:iconanimallover670:
AnimalLover670 Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
THIS!!!!!


I honestly think I'm pretty and I kinda like myself. :)
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I think I am pretty, and when I think I am ugly, I do not care, because no matter what, I will always be FABULOUS :D
Reply
:iconanimallover670:
AnimalLover670 Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
lel XD


I honestly never think I'm ugly anymore.
Reply
:iconearthangel87:
EarthAngel87 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Yeah...this is a big problem. Loving oneself isn't synonymous with narcissism. Loving oneself is healthy. I've had trouble with that (because I have depression), but I am working on it. Thanks for making this! <3
Reply
:iconkwyjibosinkus:
kwyjibosinkus Featured By Owner Apr 7, 2015
Loving yourself is gay.
Reply
:iconkikiwolf678:
kikiwolf678 Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Then I'm very, very gay. But really. Please.
Reply
:iconwarriorcatgirl04:
Warriorcatgirl04 Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
You're right! Loving yourself is a very HAPPY thing to do!
(Gay = Happy :3)
Reply
:iconask-springtrap-fnaf:
Ask-Springtrap-FNAF Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  Student Filmographer
What if you're a girl? Girls can't be gay :sexplz: 
Reply
:iconinternetexplorer968:
Internetexplorer968 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Nope.
Reply
:icondragino:
dragino Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2015
oh okay.
OH FUCKING KAY.
Reply
:iconchococannon:
ChocoCannon Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2015   General Artist
2012 called. They want their insult back.
Reply
:iconwarriorcatgirl04:
Warriorcatgirl04 Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Ohmygod. I almost broke out laughing.
Reply
:iconmini-artist12:
*Clap* so true! You're like the king of smartness on DA :)
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks :)
Reply
:iconmini-artist12:
mini-artist12 Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2015
No prob :D
Reply
:icondragondumplingsxx:
DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh my goodness yes
Im very thin and have a fast metabolism and people say "you just pretend to like yourself!!" Or "Your probably only skinny because you have anxoria!" And I eat a bit too much,actually!
Reply
:iconmelodyglow:
MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
oh my god same!
*high five*
Reply
:icondragondumplingsxx:
DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Yess
uwu
Reply
:iconmelodyglow:
MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
wanna be friends?
Reply
:icondragondumplingsxx:
DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Sure.
Reply
:iconmelodyglow:
MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
yaya!
i'll watch you!
i'm soo happy!
^-^
Reply
:iconmisscryptickitty:
MissCrypticKitty Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2015  Student General Artist
I have the same exact problem. People in lunch in elementary school would walk up to me and be like:
"Oh my god your so lucky!!"

"How are you so skinny?!"

"You must excercise allot!!"

And to be honest- I am pretty lazy. I eat a LOT, but barely gain. High metabolism sucks.
Reply
:iconmelodyglow:
MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know right?
its like being skinny is some kind of indication that you are ill.
as for me, I used to be really fat in 6th grade, naturally i wanted to lose weight.
in tenth grade I put myself down to 40kg being 5 ft,5.
my parents put me in anorexia counselling for some reason.
Reply
(1 Reply)
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thats sad! I am sorry :( 
Reply
:icondragondumplingsxx:
DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Nah,Its ok!I dont ever let em get to me.
Reply
:iconsnowpuff77:
snowpuff77 Featured By Owner Edited Jan 22, 2015
Reminds me of many other double-standard motivations. People tell me not to wear make-up (it's mostly foundation and powder) saying I'm "pretty" the way I am...and then criticizing my blemished complexion probably not even a day later. 
I'm "assured" that small breasts (AA) can be "just as hot"and that big breasts have their complications. Then I look at media and society and see smiling woman flaunting well-endowed breasts, enjoying certain privileges that are out of the small-breasted range (but I'll save more of this for a rant journal in time).
Reply
:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Too true
Reply
:iconthedazzlinghipster:
TheDazzlingHipster Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2015
People are allowed to love themselves. I love me to death lol c:
Reply
:iconroulettelephi:
RouletteLephi Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
I can relate
Reply
Add a Comment:
 
×




Details

Submitted on
September 13, 2013
Image Size
1.2 MB
Resolution
1536×1528
Submitted with
Email to Sta.sh
Link
Thumb
Embed

Stats

Views
8,105 (6 today)
Favourites
262 (who?)
Comments
347
Downloads
11
×