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Society's motivation in a nutshell.  by Little-rolling-bean Society's motivation in a nutshell.  by Little-rolling-bean
Form what I have experienced:

Loving yourself = arrogant and bad person
Hating yourself = decent and good person

This is what society thinks. Any sign of liking yourself or doing something for yourself, you are considered arrogant, self centered and horrible. And hating yourself you are automatically loved. And people wonder why girls hate themselves. Seriously, first it is this "be confident! You are great!" then next thing it is "Think about others, stop being up yourself!" 

My estimate is that depression in teenagers exists because of this. They are afraid of being judged and shamed if they show any little sign of being confident, so in order to feel better about themselves and please others, they convince themselves that they are worthless. Nobody wants to be a bad person, and nowadays even being proud about yourself means you are :unimpressed:

Well done, society. 

Well, fuck that. I am not going to put up with this BS, I WILL LOVE MYSELF. And if you think I am arrogant because of this, maybe you should look at the teens that are depressed because of your BS. I am NOT a bad person for loving myself, it just means I am confident. I admit my mistakes but instead of being ashamed, I try to fix them so I can be better. Because I love myself, I make a goal to be a better person.

I also hate people who say "making a self support stamp is arrogant". Oh? Would you rather me make suicide journals then? I am sure you would rather that if supporting myself is OH SO HORRIBLE. 

Everyone is a good person (unless they are a bigot, murderer, rapist or a bully) And beating yourself up is not making you a better person, it is just hurting yourself (and also pleasing bigots). 

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:iconprincecheezburger:
PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
This is true. I decided to conduct a little psych experiment on my own time with some people for about a week or so(not telling them, naturally, until later). When I showed I was in distress, people were more willing to grant my demands and listen to my words. They seemed to be more sympathetic and caring.
Not that I hate myself. I'm comfortable in my own skin and head, quirks and all.
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Its sad
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PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner Edited 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
I sort of find the whole obsession with life a tad funny at times.  People all want everyone to live, yet bullying often comes to the point of self-harm or suicide; then, they all blame the person for killing him or herself.  Even funnier is how people suddenly listen as you're in distress. I want to know the motivation for that. 
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Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner 5 days ago  New member
The amount of depression journals on DeviantArt, IS TOO DAMN HIGH!
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PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
I would agree with you on this one. Just look up the word "suicide" on the journal section, and tons of them pop up each day. I understand that venting in a journal helps with emotions, but I personally wouldn't post about it if I were in that position since it is MY life and MY choice, emphasis on my.
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Dont-H8-M8-Ur-Gr8 Featured By Owner 3 days ago  New member
Funny thing is, 99.99% of these journals are are made from people who aren't even in a serious situation. I had someone said they wanted to kill themselves because she thought "nobwody lieks meeeee" and someone who think they're life is SOOOO horrible because she can't find a boyfriend. Their ages? 11 year old kiddies, got both of them banned the minute I found out. XD
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PrinceCheezburger Featured By Owner 3 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
I also saw one guy saying he'd kill himself with a cone snail sting. Unless you live in an area where they're endemic (mostly in tropical areas, but a few species can be found in temperate areas) and know which species are the most likely to kill you, you don't have much of a chance. Only about 15 or so people have died from a cone snail sting. The stings are painful, but some kill within seconds or minutes.
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AnimalLover670 Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
THIS!!!!!


I honestly think I'm pretty and I kinda like myself. :)
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I think I am pretty, and when I think I am ugly, I do not care, because no matter what, I will always be FABULOUS :D
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AnimalLover670 Featured By Owner May 2, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
lel XD


I honestly never think I'm ugly anymore.
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EarthAngel87 Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Yeah...this is a big problem. Loving oneself isn't synonymous with narcissism. Loving oneself is healthy. I've had trouble with that (because I have depression), but I am working on it. Thanks for making this! <3
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kwyjibosinkus Featured By Owner Apr 7, 2015
Loving yourself is gay.
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Internetexplorer968 Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
Nope.
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dragino Featured By Owner Apr 29, 2015
oh okay.
OH FUCKING KAY.
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ChocoCannon Featured By Owner Apr 13, 2015   General Artist
2012 called. They want their insult back.
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:iconmini-artist12:
*Clap* so true! You're like the king of smartness on DA :)
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:iconlittle-rolling-bean:
Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thanks :)
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mini-artist12 Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2015
No prob :D
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DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2015  Professional Artist
Oh my goodness yes
Im very thin and have a fast metabolism and people say "you just pretend to like yourself!!" Or "Your probably only skinny because you have anxoria!" And I eat a bit too much,actually!
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MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
oh my god same!
*high five*
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DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Professional Artist
Yess
uwu
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MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
wanna be friends?
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DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2015  Professional Artist
Sure.
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MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
yaya!
i'll watch you!
i'm soo happy!
^-^
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MissCrypticKitty Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2015  Student Digital Artist
I have the same exact problem. People in lunch in elementary school would walk up to me and be like:
"Oh my god your so lucky!!"

"How are you so skinny?!"

"You must excercise allot!!"

And to be honest- I am pretty lazy. I eat a LOT, but barely gain. High metabolism sucks.
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MelodyGlow Featured By Owner Apr 8, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know right?
its like being skinny is some kind of indication that you are ill.
as for me, I used to be really fat in 6th grade, naturally i wanted to lose weight.
in tenth grade I put myself down to 40kg being 5 ft,5.
my parents put me in anorexia counselling for some reason.
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Feb 4, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thats sad! I am sorry :( 
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DragonDumplingsxX Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2015  Professional Artist
Nah,Its ok!I dont ever let em get to me.
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snowpuff77 Featured By Owner Edited Jan 22, 2015
Reminds me of many other double-standard motivations. People tell me not to wear make-up (it's mostly foundation and powder) saying I'm "pretty" the way I am...and then criticizing my blemished complexion probably not even a day later. 
I'm "assured" that small breasts (AA) can be "just as hot"and that big breasts have their complications. Then I look at media and society and see smiling woman flaunting well-endowed breasts, enjoying certain privileges that are out of the small-breasted range (but I'll save more of this for a rant journal in time).
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Too true
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TheDazzlingHipster Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2015
People are allowed to love themselves. I love me to death lol c:
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RouletteLephi Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
I can relate
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jan 20, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
XD
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ShortLemonie3 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Omg, thank you for making this! I get all the time that I am "arrogant" just because, like in the picture, I love myself and think I am a decent person! And also thinking that I am beautifull is not arrogant! It means that I feel good about myself!
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Agreed! 
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AwokenDarkness Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
WHAT IF...The girl on the top is the future of the girl bellow?





BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
AAA
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AwokenDarkness Featured By Owner Jan 9, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
HALF LIFE 3 CONFIRMED
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SpotpeltTheWarrior69 Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Society in a nutshell..
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Catarilara Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"TINK ABOOT UTHERS BC U KEEP YELLIN AT ME WEN I SAY U SHULD STOP DRAWN FUR URSELF DRAW FOR UTHERS"

|:C
I have had this thrown at me on different games and shite when I say I'm proud of everything I make.


ARE YA FUCKIN KIDDIN ME MATE?
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Its like they WANT suicide rates to go up if it means someone acctually is happy with themselves and not kissing other selfish peoples asses.
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Catarilara Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I know |:C Pisses me off
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HappyfeetAJ Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
I'm both girls at points :3
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ColoredMew Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2014  Student Digital Artist
me too
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SpotpeltTheWarrior69 Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Sometimes I'm the girl on the top,
Sometimes I'm the girl on the bottom..
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WintersWhite Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014  Student General Artist
I used to be the second person, always insulting myself to be edgy. Now I'm not like that anymore. 
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Little-rolling-bean Featured By Owner Nov 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Good :D
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WishDancer345 Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2014
I don't hate myself, I say that I do because society is stupid.
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Imagineology Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I like myself. And I pretty much stopped caring about my "reputation" in the 4th grade, when I realized that 1000 years from now nobody will even care I wore purple pants once.
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